Positive Thinking Can Affect Your Life

Positive thinking and daily affirmations are for dorks right?  Who needs that stuff!  It’s all hooey.  (Now there’s a word I don’t get to use often enough.  Hooey!)

You are already talking to yourself so why not be nice? Why tell yourself you are fat, or broke, or dumb when you could tell yourself you are beautiful, or rich, or smart?  Ever hear that if you hear a lie often enough it becomes the truth?  Our politicians have certainly heard that theory!  If you hear something over and over again you will begin to believe it, even if it’s clearly not true. And when you believe something wholeheartedly your body and mind will do everything it can to bring that belief into reality.  Your beliefs color the world around you.  You will constantly see evidence of your belief.  You will build your life in order to show that your belief is true.

Once you replace your negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. ~ Willie Nelson.

I think that this is why donating money works so well for people.  For one it puts you in contact with people who are in a worse situation that you, which gives you some perspective.  Also, when you give you realize that you do have extra.  It makes you see that you aren’t needy.  You start to believe that you are so well off that you have money to just give away.  You think “wow, I have enough money that I can meet all my needs and still help others.”  You feel powerful.  When you truly believe that you are rich you will start taking actions to make that belief materialize.  (BTW: If you want to help others by donating a little money Love Drop is an excellent place.)

A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes.  ~ Gandhi

Let me give you an example from my own life.

Like a lot of women I retained some pregnancy weight after my babies were born.  I had about 25 pounds that I wanted to lose.  I always told myself how fat I was.  I’m fat.  I’m gross. Look at that flab.  When I looked in the mirror I focused on the negatives, not the positives.  I thought this would motivate me to lose weight. If I felt fat maybe I would be too grossed out to eat a second helping.  I thought if I accepted myself the way I was that I would only get fatter.  Well you can imagine how well that worked!

One of the things that I was going to do when I lost the weight was get professional family pictures taken.  When I lost the weight.  Only then was I good enough to spend money on expensive pictures of me.

Finally, when my daughter was about 7 and my son was about 3 I said forget it!  I clearly wasn’t going to lose the weight.  It had been 7 years!  I decided that if I was going to get the pictures taken I had to just do it.  So I did.

And they came out nice.  I loved them actually.  So much so that I decided that I was fine the way I was.  Ok, I’m not perfect but I’m acceptable.  I stopped all the negative talk and just got ok with my body the way it was. I started to respect my body instead of trash it all the time.  Guess what happened?  Yeah.  Within a year I had lost the 25 pounds and I’ve kept it off.

It didn’t just fall off.  I dieted.  But I dieted with respect not insults.  That was the difference.  I wanted my body to be healthy because I loved it, not because I thought there was something wrong with it.  I was bringing out the beauty, not fixing a flaw.

Positive thinking will allow you to do everything better than negative thinking will. ~ Zig Ziglar

Now what about you?  What do you want in your life? Do you want to get out of debt?  Do you want to save more and spend less? Do you want to learn a new skill?  What are you currently saying to yourself in regards to this topic?

Let’s say you want to get out of debt.  Are you telling yourself how hard it will be?  Are you reminding yourself that your parents have always had debt and you don’t know any other way?  Are you convinced that something will always get in your way?  Stop that!  Think positive.  Change those thought patterns to something positive.  Tell yourself that you are already living debt free.  Write it down.  “I’m debt free.”  Again. “I’m debt free.”  Again.  “I’m debt free.”  Again… and again… and again.  Keep saying it.  Keep writing it.  Post it all over the house.  Put a note in your wallet.  Stick a note to your monitor.  Put one in your car.  “I’m debt free.”  “I’m debt free.”  “I’m debt free!”

When that is your automatic thought you will start to take actions to make that your reality.  When you are facing a little temporary insanity your first reaction will be “I’m debt free” not “oh well, I already have piles of debt, what’s another $100″.  Which one do you think will give you the strength to walk away from your impulse purchase?

What beliefs do you want to change?  Have you ever actively tried to change your thoughts?


  1. says

    Inspiring post Ashley. I can think of a few things that I want to improve about my life, and I definitely relate to the power of positive thought.

    Reading the quote from Zig Ziglar above takes me back to high school. Mt Dad gave me a Ziglar book called See You At The Top. It clicked with me and helped me perform strongly and get the grades to enter college…no an easy thing in Australia. Making change is as easy as flicking a swithch in your mind…it can be immediate. You just need to decide you want to change.

  2. says

    You are so right! When I think good thoughts, good things happen.

    And I lost weight the same way!!! I kept saying “You’re fat, oh well.”

    Then I decided I was pretty damn cute even if I wasn’t a model. Then we joined Weight Watchers Online and I am down 29 pounds in 6 months! Positive thinking is awesome!

  3. says

    Awesome post Ashley! I’m a firm believer in positive thinking as well. But we all have those days. That’s when we really have to focus on the positives! Great personal examples on your weight loss. Congrats! I think it’s easier to beat yourself up then cheer yourself up. Perhaps it’s a skill we learn over time. But when you have it, life is sooo much better. Thanks again!

  4. says

    Good food for thought. I really focus on what is “working” in my life as opposed to what isn’t “working”. There are many things to be positive about in ones life.

  5. says

    Mom used to have a quote a day on positive thinking from somewhere. I used to think it was corny, but now agree that the way you think is they way you are…thinking leads being.

    It can be especially hard, though, if you are in constant contact with very negative people!

  6. says

    Its sad that negative thoughts occupy thoughts a lot more than positive ones do for most people. Appreciating the good things in life makes you happier opening the door for better things along the way.

  7. says

    Thanks so much for these words Ashley. It is so darn easy to tell ourselves negative things, and roll around in our own self pity. I’ve recently been writing down a few affirmations every morning at breakfast. It sounds dorky, but it really has been helping improve my daily attitude and actions.

  8. Ashley says

    @ Lindy: Ahh.. I love it!! Writing it down really does help. I’ve used it that trick before to get brave for things. When I have to do something scary I will write down successful thoughts before hand.

  9. says

    I always try and leave the house with a smile on my face. That world can knock you down but if you keep things positive in your head you can ride through it all!

    Great post.

  10. says

    Great post, Ashley. I hate how new-age this positivity stuff sounds. I hate it because it makes people not take it seriously. Making the conscious decision to be positive is just about the best thing you can do for yourself. People think it’s about viewing the world through rose-tinted glasses or just outright lying to yourself. It really isn’t. It’s about not creating extra ways and excuses to fail!

  11. says

    Congrats on the weight loss Ashley! I was in a really dark place a long time ago in my life and I couldn’t agree more about the power of positive thinking!! It is life changing. -Sydney

  12. says

    Great post clearly showing the effects positive thinking can have on you both psychologically and physically. The mind can be a wonderful thing if you coax it along in the right (positive) direction.

  13. says

    A great post, a great message, and a great approach to life. I need to improve my thinking; I tend to be a pessimist at heart, and really should try to look on the bright side of life. I’ll have to try telling myself that I’ve already met my goals, see how that works out; it can’t be worse than getting sad about them, right?

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