You are already talking to yourself so why not be nice? Why tell yourself you are fat, or broke, or dumb when you could tell yourself you are beautiful, or rich, or smart? Ever hear that if you hear a lie often enough it becomes the truth? Our politicians have certainly heard that theory! If you hear something over and over again you will begin to believe it, even if it’s clearly not true. And when you believe something wholeheartedly your body and mind will do everything it can to bring that belief into reality. Your beliefs color the world around you. You will constantly see evidence of your belief. You will build your life in order to show that your belief is true.
Once you replace your negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. ~ Willie Nelson.
I think that this is why donating money works so well for people. For one it puts you in contact with people who are in a worse situation that you, which gives you some perspective. Also, when you give you realize that you do have extra. It makes you see that you aren’t needy. You start to believe that you are so well off that you have money to just give away. You think “wow, I have enough money that I can meet all my needs and still help others.” You feel powerful. When you truly believe that you are rich you will start taking actions to make that belief materialize. (BTW: If you want to help others by donating a little money Love Drop is an excellent place.)
A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes. ~ Gandhi
Let me give you an example from my own life.
Like a lot of women I retained some pregnancy weight after my babies were born. I had about 25 pounds that I wanted to lose. I always told myself how fat I was. I’m fat. I’m gross. Look at that flab. When I looked in the mirror I focused on the negatives, not the positives. I thought this would motivate me to lose weight. If I felt fat maybe I would be too grossed out to eat a second helping. I thought if I accepted myself the way I was that I would only get fatter. Well you can imagine how well that worked!
One of the things that I was going to do when I lost the weight was get professional family pictures taken. When I lost the weight. Only then was I good enough to spend money on expensive pictures of me.
Finally, when my daughter was about 7 and my son was about 3 I said forget it! I clearly wasn’t going to lose the weight. It had been 7 years! I decided that if I was going to get the pictures taken I had to just do it. So I did.
And they came out nice. I loved them actually. So much so that I decided that I was fine the way I was. Ok, I’m not perfect but I’m acceptable. I stopped all the negative talk and just got ok with my body the way it was. I started to respect my body instead of trash it all the time. Guess what happened? Yeah. Within a year I had lost the 25 pounds and I’ve kept it off.
It didn’t just fall off. I dieted. But I dieted with respect not insults. That was the difference. I wanted my body to be healthy because I loved it, not because I thought there was something wrong with it. I was bringing out the beauty, not fixing a flaw.
Positive thinking will allow you to do everything better than negative thinking will. ~ Zig Ziglar
Now what about you? What do you want in your life? Do you want to get out of debt? Do you want to save more and spend less? Do you want to learn a new skill? What are you currently saying to yourself in regards to this topic?
Let’s say you want to get out of debt. Are you telling yourself how hard it will be? Are you reminding yourself that your parents have always had debt and you don’t know any other way? Are you convinced that something will always get in your way? Stop that! Think positive. Change those thought patterns to something positive. Tell yourself that you are already living debt free. Write it down. “I’m debt free.” Again. “I’m debt free.” Again. “I’m debt free.” Again… and again… and again. Keep saying it. Keep writing it. Post it all over the house. Put a note in your wallet. Stick a note to your monitor. Put one in your car. “I’m debt free.” “I’m debt free.” “I’m debt free!”
When that is your automatic thought you will start to take actions to make that your reality. When you are facing a little temporary insanity your first reaction will be “I’m debt free” not “oh well, I already have piles of debt, what’s another $100″. Which one do you think will give you the strength to walk away from your impulse purchase?
What beliefs do you want to change? Have you ever actively tried to change your thoughts?